Vacation flings,they are magical but fleeting. Many of us would rather leave them on the beach, or wherever they started than pursue them and risk getting heartbroken.
Of course nothing is impossible and we can never generalize, As some real and genuine long lasting relationships started on the beach and evolved later to be the real thing , but its also important to be objective and realistic in your judgment and take away your pink glasses so you dont get your heart broken . So how to know the difference ? And how to avoid bieng heart broken ?
Here are my 10 tips for Europeans to avoid heartbreak.
WHAT HAPPENS IN EGYPT STAYS IN EGYPT
Don't try to bring it home, it rarely works out and costs you a packet. It's a holiday romance, enjoy it, but it's not real, he doesn't really want to live with you in Rotherham or Hull....unless he does. More on that later.
DON'T PUT YOUR LIFE ON HOLD SAVING FOR THE NEXT TRIP
Get a life at home. Go out, have fun, don't sit at home moping over your 'beautiful boy' and waiting for him to call. He's carrying on as normal, not gazing lovingly at pictures of you on his iPhone, he's busy having a life. DO THE SAME.
DON'T FRET THAT HE MIGHT BE UNFAITHFUL
Chances are, he will be, think about it and consider how you met. How quickly did you guys fall in love, is it likely that you are the only one? Be realistic.
DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS ARE STRESSFUL
Take care of your mental health and well-being. Are you devastated as you cling to him for the final time before you board the plane? Do you get sad when the last few days of your holiday creep up? Do you wish you could stay forever in your perfect love bubble? Standby YOU'RE IN BIG TROUBLE.
LIFE SPIRALS OUT OF CONTROL
Do you start planning your next trip as soon as you touch down? If you are scanning the cheap flights before you've even had a cup of good old British tea, you're in trouble. You are obsessed and you are no longer thinking rationally, you have succumbed to VMS (vacation madness syndrome) and that makes you very vulnerable.
BIG AGE GAP ROMANCE AND MARRIAGE
Check out the story of the older woman who brought her toyboy to Britain. She paid for everything, but when they divorced, the court's said she had to pay him £40,000 in a divorce settlement. She is not amused.
Be smart not stupid.
MARRIAGE IS A GAMBLE.
There are no guarantees of happiness whoever you marry, just check out the divorce statistics. So if you're going to risk it, get a Pre Nup, (pre nuptial agreement). If you have a scammer on your hands they won't be able to fleece you when it all goes wrong.
OLDER CHILDREN AND TOYBOYS
Your kids may love their new 'older brother' but they may not. You can do what you want, but don't expect them to like it. Most kids get embarrassed by seeing Mum with her tongue down the throat of a guy who's their generation. Don't embarrass your kids.
WHERE DOES YOUR MONEY GO?
Make sure your will is water tight. You might be young or old, but the grim reaper can arrive at anyone's door unexpectedly. You don't want your children to lose their inheritance do you?
DON'T GET PREGNANT (does not apply for older ladies)
Think! What happens if you split up?. Will you take the child home and deprive them of their father? Will you be allowed to? Are you happy to live in Egypt or are you working on bringing your partner to the UK or elsewhere? A condom can prevent a lot of heartbreak, practice safe sex and don't take the risk of catching something unexpected. A baby is for life, not just for vacations.
There you have it. DON'T BE A NUMPTY.
Wishing everyone wonderful vacations in beautiful Egypt minus the heartbreak.